I have come to realize through the years that how you deal with bad news or a life changing blow depends on how you've grown as a person. I have always had an open mind, and have fed it through reading about a variety of issues and concepts.
If I was to be honest, I'd say that I wasn't always a confident person. There were times in my early years that I didn't feel good about myself at all. But I always had the strength and self will to feel better and carry on.
Part of my life journey was probably learning and growing . I have read and learned a lot over the years, and had an open enough mind to experiment with what works with me. By the time I was in my mid forties, and was diagnosed with cancer, I had the confidence and willpower to deal with the news.
As a parent, I find you need the fortitude and wisdom to know how to deliver.......or not.............this news to your children and family. Not all families are in the same position, and I realize there are reasons why some cancer patients don't want to share this particular journey with their children.
But my decision was made at the start. My three girls were going on that journey with me. It was my way of providing them with an example of how you deal with any type of bad news. My daughters saw me at my best, and at my worst........and they were told about every bump on the road.
This created a bit of a comfort zone amongst us, and from it, we had a few laughs. One of them was the discussion about whether or not I should go out in public with my wig. My younger two, who were 7 and 10 years of age at the time couldn't care less if I left it at home. The older one, being 12, and heading into her teen years, wanted me to look normal. She would insist that I wear it.
So it's not only being physically fit that enables you to get through a serious illness, but how you've exercised your mind.